Monthly Archives: August 2013

Do You Live With A Passive Aggressive Partner?

By Alan Howard

If you live with a passive aggressive partner, I really do understand your pain, as I have been the one causing that same pain in others over the years. Only recently have I begun to understand the effect my passive aggression has been having on other people.

One of the really amazing dynamics of relationships is that people are attracted to their opposites, those who balance them. This dynamic works in mysterious ways, and often without the participants’ knowledge or understanding. So a lazy woman might be with a hard working man, or a quiet man will be with a talkative woman, or a man who resents taking orders will be with a woman who gives orders…

Passive aggression (PA) goes back to childhood, and is a result of controlling and abusive parents who prevented the expression of negative emotions in the child. The child grows up learning that expressing emotions is a punishable offence, and so they don’t. However, they have a feeling of helplessness and anger about their situation, but with no control over it or any authority to do something about it. So they end up becoming the ‘rebellious teenager’, who agrees to doing what they’re told, but finds ways of sabotaging it in order to establish their own sense of control with the situation. Continue Reading

Stop Worrying About What Other People Will Think

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” ~ Steve Jobs… Continue Reading

Why People Sabotage Their Love Relationships By Using Passive Aggressive Behaviors

By Nora Femenia In the glow of a new love relationship, our expectations of bonding, sharing and connecting with each other are very high… and this high feeling corresponds with the satisfaction of our human need for love and connection. We are all programmed by evolution to search and find another human being to develop… Continue Reading

Wives Shouldn’t Let Passive Aggression Bring Them and Their Husbands Down!

By Neil Warner It can take passive aggressive people years, even lifetimes, to realize the truth about the unintended impact of their behavior on loved ones. When they do, it often comes as a huge blow to see how they have hurt those they loved and maimed the relationships that were “important” to them, while… Continue Reading

How Couples Can Achieve Emotional Intimacy in the Bedroom

Today’s guest post is from therapist Terry Gaspard, who looks at the roles we may unknowingly play in our intimate relationships — and how they can often prevent us from real closeness with our partners. I hear the same complaint over and over again from clients: “Why doesn’t my wife want to have sex with… Continue Reading

Why The Today Show’s Hoda Kotb Will Find Love Again

Popular Today show anchor Hoda Kotb says she’s single and ready to get back into the dating scene. The 48-year-old, who most recently dated a lawyer for two years, is implementing one of the most powerful tools a successful dater can have — a positive attitude. Kotb recently told People magazine that she is excited about the future, “I… Continue Reading

Ten Signs Your Relationship May Be Making You Depressed

Today’s guest blog comes from  psychologist and marriage counselor Susan Heitler, PhD, who does a great job of exploring how behaviors in a relationship can lead to depression. Depression can come from a disorder of power. If you are feeling powerless in your relationship, either in general or because of a particular problem, odds are high… Continue Reading