Monthly Archives: September 2014

When Someone You Love is Depressed: How to Cope (and Avoid Getting Depressed, Too)

By Seth Meyers, Psy.D.

No matter how psychologically healthy – heck, perfect – you want to believe you are, there’s a little part of you that wants to be your partner’s hero in a relationship. When he falls into a slump, you want to believe that you have the magic to pull him out of it and make him happy. Yet anyone who has been in a relationship with someone who’s depressed knows how no hero exists who’s more powerful than depression. This mental disorder can seep into any relationship and smear sadness and hopelessness everywhere. I’m here to tell you what to do if this kind of juggernaut strikes your relationship.

The Signs of Depression and Common Reactions

First, let’s cover the signs. If your date or your partner is depressed, you’ll see: sad mood; a negative or hopeless outlook for the future; eating too much or too little; crying out of the blue; loss of or low energy; sleeping too much or too little; indecisiveness; and social isolation or withdrawal. For a bad depression phase, the average episode often lasts six to eight months. Continue Reading

What Your Profile Picture Says (and Doesn’t Say) About You

By Sara Eckel Nice smile: check. Sunglasses off: check. You know the basics. No pictures of exes with heads cut out. No shots of you ten years younger or twenty pounds thinner. And guys, please keep your shirts on. But two recent studies published in the journal Psychological Science shows that the act of choosing… Continue Reading

The 4 Conversations You Should Never Have On a First Date

Is it almost time to ask her about her crazy family? Popular blogger Lindsay Tigar returns with valuable information for your next first date. If you are thinking about revealing all about the ex, or dishing about your finances, you better read this one! Written by Lindsay Tigar If you’ve been single for a while,… Continue Reading

Worrying About Being Single? Then Read This…

Worrying about things we can’t control is fruitless. We all know that. But it’s pretty tough not to get concerned about some areas — like matters of the heart. I really like today’s guest post from Dr. Karin Anderson — as she brings a great perspective to those feeling badly about their single status. Written by… Continue Reading

Should You Encourage Friends to Try Online Dating?

By Sarah Elizabeth Richards The conversation usually goes something like this: Friend: “I’m sick of being single. I gotta make dating more of a priority.” Me: “Why aren’t you trying online dating?” Friend: “I know, I know. Will you help me with my profile?” Me: “Sure. Send me a draft next week.” A couple months later,… Continue Reading

Your Girlfriends Will Probably Outlive Your Partner!

By Monique A. Honaman “Reminder: your girlfriends will probably outlive your husband. So find good ones.” My sides still hurt from laughing so hard! I just returned from spending a long weekend with five friends who I have known since elementary and middle school. The six of us met between 4th and 7th grades. We’ve… Continue Reading

The Sociopathic Adolescent: Myths, Research, Parenting Tips

By Seth Meyers, Psy.D. A safe and protective family environment is thrust into serious jeopardy when one member of the family starts displaying sociopathic tendencies. Few factors can stress a family to the extreme degree that a sociopathic child can, which is why parents getting knowledgeable about what qualifies as sociopathic behavior is crucial. To… Continue Reading

Understanding the Sociopath: Cause, Motivation, Relationship

By Dr. Seth Myers I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on sociopathy as a function of commenting on television about Jodi Arias, the woman who burtally murdered her boyfriend in 2008 and is currently in the middle of a much-publicized trial. I’ve come to ask myself some very basic questions about those who are sociopaths,… Continue Reading

The Conflicted, Resentful Parent

By Dr. Seth Meyers Over the years, I’ve worked with hundreds of parents in both the community mental health system and private practice. Among all the parents I’ve worked with, I’ve found that one particular group – regardless of socioeconomic status or any other factor – appears to be the most conflicted as they parent… Continue Reading