Monthly Archives: October 2014

The Difference Between People Who Like Dating – and Those Who Hate It

By Seth Meyers, Psy.D.

Disclaimer alert: You might not like what I’m about to say if you’re someone who is, um, e-x-t-r-e-m-e-l-y uncomfortable with the whole dating process. The truth, however, is that disliking or even hating dating is a sign that you have some sort of mental block that is getting in the way of you having a good experience dating.

True, dating ushers in all sorts of unknowns: Will he be funny? Is she attractive in person? Will he be an awful jerk? Will she like my weird little quirks? But dating shouldn’t unleash rabid insecurities; if it does, it’s a sign that you haven’t done your part in dealing with your issues so that you can put them to bed for good. While it’s normal to have some minor insecurities and anxieties, dating shouldn’t be an awful experience. If it’s awful for you, it means that it’s high time for a mental shift. Continue Reading

Life Advice: Throw Out the Scorecard

By Sara Eckel I recently attended a party where a man delivered a long, fairly hostile monologue about his wife’s poor driving skills, giving everyone in the room blow-by-blows of each fender bender and exacting details about how much her snafus had raised their car insurance premiums. His wife, a beautiful and good-natured doctor, didn’t… Continue Reading

Just ‘In Like’? How to Know When to Cut Bait

By Sarah Elizabeth Richards I don’t know why bad dates get all the attention because there’s another kind of date that’s almost as frustrating: the lukewarm date. The guy was nice. The evening was pleasant. The conversation was mildly entertaining. And of course, he wants to see you again. You start to say to yourself,… Continue Reading

How to Move On After a Breakup: 4 Counterintuitive Strategies

By Seth Meyers, Psy.D. Breakups are usually a messy business, even if you wanted the relationship to end. People often make the mistake of thinking that breakups are hard for the dumpee, but not hard for the dumper who had a choice in the matter. Ultimately, breakups are hard for the dumpers, too, because ending… Continue Reading

Think Your Last Relationship was a ‘Waste of Time’?

By Sarah Elizabeth Richards There are fewer heartwarming phrases found in online dating profiles than this gem: “Don’t waste my time!” It’s about as effective for warding off romantic disappointment as writing “Don’t lose interest in me” or “Don’t hurt my feelings” or “Don’t pretend to like football and then play on your phone when… Continue Reading

Do You Feel Overlooked — or Invisible?

They say that to find a great love, you must first learn to love yourself. Dr. Margaret Paul returns in today’s guest blog about this exact subject. It’s all about taking the steps to understand your worth, believing you are deserving of great things, and then taking action to get there. This is a process, but awareness is… Continue Reading

Should You Stop Searching for a Soulmate?

By Sara Eckel Singles are often told to “get out there,” but this advice changes when you actually take it. Then you’re told to relax and let love come naturally. This advice is frequently followed by someone else’s magical “how we met” story. You know the kind. They involve missed flights, traffic snafus, hilarious hijinks… Continue Reading