Monthly Archives: November 2015

Don’t Let Your Creative Mind Fuel Your Social Anxiety

By Traci Pedersen

Many sufferers of social anxiety are highly sensitive, introspective individuals who simply fall into the mindtrap of extreme self-consciousness in unfamiliar social situations. Self-consciousness is essentially a fear-driven derivative of introspection, the ability to examine one’s own self.

Research also has shown that people who score high in traits of neuroticism, including anxiety, fear and worry, tend to have extremely active imaginations. In other words, the worrywarts and overthinkers of the world simply are using their creative minds to imagine the worst-case scenarios instead of the best.

Unfortunately, this is often the case when we introspective types enter new social situations: we let fear do the driving. We closely monitor ourselves with an extra pair of judgmental eyes, trying to catch anything embarrassing or awkward before anyone else does: the way we’re talking, the way we just laughed, or how we just moved our left arm in that awkward way. Then comes the imaginative part: That person thinks I’m ridiculous, weird, dumb, etc.

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6 Things to Stop Now if You Want a Successful Relationship

By Guest Contributor Connie Podesta, author of Redefining Happiness: A Powerhouse Mindset for Success Ready for a relationship that will last? Here are six things you need to QUIT first! 1. Quit thinking it WON’T last. Going into a relationship thinking it’s doomed means only one thing – it is. Every time things aren’t perfect you’ll feel… Continue Reading

9 Tips to Help Create a Love that Lasts

By Guest Contributor Dr. Lynda Klau, Licensed Psychologist and founder of Life Unlimited: The Center for Human Possiblity How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These are indispensable tips, written with romantic relationships in mind, but… Continue Reading

7 Keys to a Thriving Marriage

By Guest Contributors Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz, YourTango Not only do we think marriage is here to stay, we think marriage is better than ever (if you know the ingredients needed to keep love alive and thriving). Positive examples of marriage and long-term relationships abound — they are everywhere! Successful and… Continue Reading

The Long-Distance Relationship: 6 Things to Remember

By Guest Contributor Alicia H. Clark, PsyD Love doesn’t always respect geographic boundaries, or easily take a backseat to educational pursuits, familial obligations, and career opportunities. Long-distance relationships (LDR) are proliferating, with an estimated 14 million couples defining their relationships as such and a staggering 75 percent of engaged couples reporting having been in a… Continue Reading

Why Men are More Distant in Relationships

By Guest Contributor Kim Olver, best-selling author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life. Women immerse themselves in their romantic relationships, while men place their romantic partners on an equal but distant footing, according to research from Oxford University. The study shows that, generally, women are more invested in their relationships than men… Continue Reading