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What’s Your ‘TQ’? Seven Ways to Boost Your Togetherness Quotient

By Cyndi Dale and Andrew Wald

What's Your 'TQ'? Seven Ways to Boost Your Togetherness Quotient

Do you have a pattern of short-lived, unsatisfying relationships? Do you stay at home alone on the weekends because it feels safer and easier than dating or “putting yourself out there”? Are you simply resigned to being single?

These are all signs that you may need to boost your TQ: Togetherness Quotient. That’s the term we coined for the mix of behaviors and attitudes that determine how easily one forms healthy, intimate relationships.

The good news is that TQ, unlike IQ, is not something we’re stuck with. Our ability to love deeply and intimately is based on what we’ve learned from a lifetime of relationships and experiences, starting at birth. However, as adults we have the opportunity to remove barriers to self-love and love of others, thus boosting our TQ. Here are seven ways to do this:

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