3 Ways Men Are Different Than Women — And Why That’s Good

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Some women love being around men. If you are one of them, I’m sure you’ve noticed how different a man’s energy is from the feminine energy of your girlfriends.

Yet for many women, it’s easy assume men think and act like women… just with different bodies.

This way of thinking can create tremendous frustration for you when you’re trying to get your needs met in a relationship.

That’s why I’d like to share these three tips about men that you can put into action to your advantage and theirs.

1. Men love making you happy.

That’s a shocker, isn’t it? But men really do want to make you happy. The key lies in knowing how to ask them for their help so they’ll want to do anything for you.

The other key is not telling a man how to do what you’ve just asked of him.

If you want help from a man, graciously and appreciatively accept what he does for you, even if it’s not exactly what you wanted.

A man will feel beaten down by you when he thinks nothing he ever does is right in your eyes. And that’s when he stops trying to please you and make you happy.

2. Men can only focus on one thing at a time.

This is as area where we expect men to be like women, but because of human history going back to the caveman days, we are totally different here too.

For men to hunt, they had to focus on their prey and how they were going to bring this prey home as food for their family. If they started admiring the way natural plants beautifully draped the entrance of their cave, they’d become prey rather than hunting it themselves.

Men can only focus on one thing at a time. Keep this in mind when you ask a man to do something, and then start piling other tasks on top of it. He literally can’t.

3. Men don’t want you to bend like a pretzel for them.

So many women have told me how they lost themselves in a relationship trying to please the man in their life.

Why do you do this, ladies? Because you did everything to keep your caveman happy so he would keep you safe and protected. Isn’t it amazing how this engrained part of our DNA has continued to be part of your life thousands of years later?

However, men don’t expect you to bend to the breaking point for them or even want you to. They actually are attracted to women who have their own interests and the sexy inner glow those passions can spark in you.

If you’d like to go deeper on these topics, plus learn how to come into your feminine power — as a hint, it’s not lying down like a doormat or being the strongest one in the room — check out my new book, The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50: 7 Steps To Attracting Quality Men.

Lisa Copeland is the Dating Coach who empowers strong women over 50 to attract quality men. Find out more at www.FindAQualityMan.com.

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Sometimes it feels like the foundation of your social life is so strong that you no longer find the opportunity to meet new and exciting people. Throw a barbecue or party in which guests bring a friend that no one in the group knows. Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function — this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can ‘check out’ with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date.

There’s no longer a stigma about a woman learning to golf or a man taking a Pilates class, though such activities are still gender lopsided enough one way or the other to open up the dating options for the minority sex. In time you’ll be able to go to a local public course and complete someone else’s foursome, or cap off an exercise class by going for coffee with some of your fellow students — both of which will give you the opportunity to meet a host of new people (most likely of the opposite sex). Just make sure you’re doing something you want to do — it would be a shame to begin a relationship under false pretenses.

Organizations such as “Habitat For Humanity” allow you to come into contact with people of all ages and from all walks of life, all of whom have strong, respectable values. And it’s not just a great chance to meet a prospective date — volunteering attracts interesting, good-natured people who themselves are excited to meet new faces and make friends.

Book clubs are great places to meet well-read, like-minded adults — you can usually find one by calling your local library. Similarly, wine clubs, outdoors clubs and gardening clubs are good options as well depending on your interests. Joining a club allows you to grow as an individual and sets up the opportunity for you to meet someone who shares a common interest.

Singles over 50 are flocking to the online dating world more than any other demographic. It would be a shame to let 20th century prejudices about online dating spoil the opportunities that could await you with a membership. The perception that dating sites attract eccentrics or shut-ins is a dying one, but if you need convincing, just see for yourself the array of adults turning to sites like “Match” and “eHarmony” to help them begin meaningful relationships with interesting people. Here are the top five most popular dating sites for Post50s.

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