Category Archives: Psych-Central Relationships

A Good Marriage is a Safe Marriage

A Good Marriage is a Safe Marriage

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a good marriage is a safe marriageBy Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.

A healthy marriage is one in which both members of the couple feel safe. It is only when there is a foundation of safety that the individuals as well as the couple can grow and mature. With it comes the intimacy that is only possible when people feel secure enough to be vulnerable. Without it, any conflict threatens the entire relationship.

It’s true that the marriages of some of the couples I see in therapy should end. Some probably never should have taken place at all. These are the couples who have not been able to establish and maintain safety in their relationship. Some married for all the wrong reasons: to get out of a parent’s home, for financial gain, or just because everyone else expected them to. Some struggle with verbal, physical, or emotional abuse. In such cases, it’s important to first ensure individual safety.

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Making Love Last: Lessons from the Long Married

Making Love Last: Lessons from the Long Married

This post was originally published on this siteBy Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D. Although the marriage rate has been trending down since the 1970s, the majority of Americans are married at some point in their lives. While only about 51% of the population is currently married, 72% have been married at least once. Despite a discouraging divorce… Continue Reading

Self-Care Tips for Those Married to Someone with Asperger Syndrome

Self-Care Tips for Those Married to Someone with Asperger Syndrome

This post was originally published on this siteBy Kathy J. Marshack, Ph.D. Living with a mate who has Asperger Syndrome is fraught with stress. You love them but, quite frankly, they are unpredictable. You never know how they’ll react to an ordinary situation. Whether your Aspie rants, or melts down into a rage or torrent… Continue Reading

Book Review: Mindful Relationships

Book Review: Mindful Relationships

This post was originally published on this siteBy Dr. Richard Chambers and Margie Ulbrick While most of us devote a considerable amount of energy and attention to improving our relationships, in their new book, Mindful Relationships: Creating Genuine Connection With Ourselves and Others, Dr. Richard Chambers and Margie Ulbrick argue that mindfulness itself is a… Continue Reading

Narcissistic Relationships

Narcissistic Relationships

This post was originally published on this siteBy Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT Since writing Codependency for Dummies, countless people have contacted me about their unhappiness and difficulties in dealing with a difficult loved one — frequently a narcissistic partner or parent who is uncooperative, selfish, cold, and often abusive. Partners of narcissists feel torn between… Continue Reading