By Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.
It is often difficult for non-custodial parents to have regular, meaningful contact with their kids following the divorce. It is so difficult that there are many non-custodial parents who gradually slip out of their children’s lives. Studies verify the problem. In the U.S., 83 percent of children report not seeing their non-custodial parent on a weekly basis and 33 to 50 percent report not seeing them in the previous year. Although almost 85 percent of non-custodial parents are fathers, it’s important not to ignore the 15 percent who are mothers. The reasons many of these fathers and mothers gradually fade out of their children’s lives are much the same.
It doesn’t have to happen. If you are a non-custodial parent, you can and should stay in your children’s lives. Your children need you.